The Field Manual
HAIRCUTS &
HANDGRENADES
By Todd Kane
HOW TO PUT THE PIN BACK IN EXPLOSIVE CONVERSATIONS
A Guide to Cutting Through Fear and Finding Integrity in Conflict
You know the feeling: a difficult conversation shifts from dialogue to disaster. Your face flushes, your heart races, and as your words detonate, you watch another relationship go up in smoke. In today's polarized world, any interaction can become a live grenade.
But what if you could disarm the room before the explosion? Todd Kane teaches you the FIND Method — a battle-tested framework for navigating explosive conversations with integrity.
The Mission Brief
IN THIS GUIDE, KANE TEACHES YOU HOW TO:
FEEL
Your triggers before they blow.
INTERROGATE
The biases that cloud your vision.
NAVIGATE
Using a constellation of values as your fixed points in the sky.
DO
The hard work of integrity — building bridges and choosing peace.
“Stop navigating by the unreliable North Star of ‘Partial Truths’ and start leading with character. Whether you're on call with a colleague, in the boardroom with a partner, or sitting across from a family member who disagrees with everything you believe — HAIRCUTS & HANDGRENADESis your field manual for finding integrity in the crossfire.”
It's time to cut the fuse, put the pin back in, and finally breathe clear air.
Field Reports
WHAT READERS ARE SAYING
“This isn't a self-help book — it's a field manual. I keep it on my desk.”
COL. J. PATTERSON
US Army, Ret.
“I read it in one sitting. Todd doesn't sugarcoat. He tells you exactly what you need to hear.”
RENEE M.
Executive Coach
“The FIND Method gave my entire salon team a shared language for conflict. Game changer.”
DANNY F.
Salon Director
“Finally, a communication book that doesn't feel like a therapy session. Tactical, honest, and actionable.”
TRAVIS L.
Corporate Trainer
“Todd speaks from both the battlefield and the chair. That's a rare perspective that this world needs right now.”
DR. AMARA O.
Leadership Consultant
“I gave a copy to every manager on my team. The conversations we've had since are a completely different caliber.”
CHRIS H.
Operations Director
Take It Further
THE BOOK COMES WITH A FREE ONLINE TACTICAL WORKBOOK
The H&H Tactical Guide is your interactive companion to the book. Apply the FIND Method to your live conflicts.
Access the Guide